Crickets. Crickets. Crickets.
I’m not rich and famous, so who cares?
Denzel Washington is openly straight!
Again, crickets.
Crickets. Crickets.
I bet if he announced that he was a ‘gay American’, station
managers would immediately cut into President Obama’s State of the Union Address
with that breaking news. And, we the
public, would be bombarded with a litany of non-information following that one
little statement.
There are some things I do not want to know about
celebrities. The other day, I saw a
headline stating that an NBC producer may have proof that LeBron James cheated
on his wife. I like LeBron, but he is
not my friend; and his wife is not my friend either. If he indeed cheated on her, I would like to think
that she would prefer that embarrassing piece of information remained very
private.
In my head, I feel like the reason why the gay community is
fighting so much for equality is so that they can be treated like everyone else,
well, at least like the average White man.
Don’t think they want to be treated like Mexicans or Blacks! And in my utopia, equality means that nobody
obsesses about another’s sexual identity, sexual preference or sexual
orientation. I don’t see my neighbors
announcing on a daily basis what kind of sex they engage in. Yet, it seems like every week, another gay
person has to let the world know that he or she is gay. And the thing is, most of us do not even
know, much less care about these people.
Before Jason Collins came out, I had no idea who he was; and from what
I’ve heard, he is not that great a player.
So you know that he will forever be remembered as the first openly gay
NBA player. No one cares that he went to
Stanford and Harvard. No one cares that
he will be one of the few twin brothers that played in the NBA. All everyone knows is what kind of sex he
practices.
Prior to a couple of weeks ago, I had no idea who Michael Sam was;
and just last week, actress Ellen Page came out. Before long, people are going to insist that
Queen Latifah comes out. And I can only
imagine how many people are betting to see when Ryan Seacrest will follow
suit. Of course Queen Latifah and Ryan
Seacrest have never said that they are gay, but according to everyone’s gaydar,
they are. Again, I don’t have to sleep
with either of them; so it is a huge non-factor for me. However, Queen Latifah’s potential coming out
will not make me love her any more or any less, neither will Ryan Seacrest’s
make me anymore or any less oblivious to him.
Maybe I’m too naïve, but I still don’t get the big deal. People have been gay since the beginning of
times. I know that many people think
that this is a new trend, but with a name like Homo erectus, do you
really need any more proof? On one hand,
many in society say that they don’t care what happens in another person’s
bedroom, but on the other hand, when it is revealed that an individual is gay,
that individual is looked at with a queer eye.
No pun intended.
And I am not making light of how gays are treated. I have not walked a mile in a gay person’s
shoes, but I’m a Black Caribbean woman. Trust
me; I know discrimination based on color, accent and gender. I get it.
And maybe because I cannot feign my color, gender or accent that I know
if I were gay, I would still be me. I
get that some people think that too many gays flaunt their gayness; but a lot
of folks in various groups flaunt their identities also. We see it all the time. Young white males flaunt their privileged
status. Jocks flaunt their athleticism. Pretty girls flaunt their beauty. And we all know Jamaicans are known to flaunt
their confidence. I have never met an
educated Jamaican who does not loudly and proudly speak in that strong Jamaican
English accent, proving that she can be understood without speaking like an
American.
I guess what I’m really bitching about is the fact that I’m
jealous. Society has softened. The media have softened. Politicians have softened. So now is a good time to be gay in
America. Presently, nobody can say anything
remotely homophobic and get away with it.
Several months ago, Alec Baldwin lost his MSNBC gig after he hurled
anti-gay comments to a photographer. But
let’s face it; MSNBC was probably looking for an excuse to cancel that
show. You know if Alec Baldwin’s show was
bringing in ratings and profits to the tune of Duck Dynasty, a sad
apology would have sufficed. The
patriarch in Duck Dynasty was slapped with a nine day suspension after his
racial and homophobic tirade.
Z-List celebrities like Ted Nugent are always in the news for
saying something vilely racist about Obama, and they constantly get away with
it. I still don’t know who he is or what
he is famous for; he is probably like the Kim Kardashian of the South. What society does not realize is that these
comments are not isolated incidents from what is happening in the rest of the
country. This idiot disrespecting the
President and getting away with it opens the floodgates for people to gun down
Black youths, for police to assault Black men in their custody, and think that it
is just another ordinary day.
But every time a civil rights activist speaks up, every time the
Black man on the street speaks up, every time a Black mother speaks up, we are
accused of pulling the race card. Every
time Black people remark that it feels like slavery all over again, we are shot
down. No pun intended. Black people should forget about slavery as
much Jews should forget about the Holocaust. Black people should forget about slavery as
much as the Ukrainians should forget about the Holodomor. Black people should forget about slavery as
much as the Chinese should forget about the Great Chinese Famine. Black people should forget about slavery as
much as the Armenians should forget about the Ottoman Empire massacres. Black people should forget about slavery as
much as the Vietnamese people should forget about Ho Chi Min and as much as Iranians
should forget about Ayatollah Khomeini. Black
people should be like 9/11 survivors and let the world know that we will never
forget.
I guess it’s easier to “tolerate” gays because just about
everybody has one in his circle, but not every circle has a token Black. And it’s easier to not bash them because one ever
knows for sure who is in the closet, whereas too many Blacks can’t really hide
in closets. Although it would put a
smile on Martin Luther King’s face to see children of all color hanging out
together in school cafeterias, it would break his heart to hear and see many of
the stories that still take place in 2014.
Every time we take one step forward, some crap happens that reminds me
that America has taken two steps backwards, or in the case of Florida, 200.
People like to say that they are colorblind. I can say I’m sexual-orientation blind. But, let’s face it; that sounds just as
ridiculous. Don’t be colorblind towards
me. See me. But see me for who I am, not for what you
perceive me to be. People look at someone
like Chris Christie, and you will never hear them say that they are weight-blind. We look at him, and we know he LOVES to
eat. We assume he is greedy; but he is
never judged on the content of his lunch kit!
With so much sympathy being lathered on gays, it is quite understandable
why they are coming out in droves. And
that is all Black people want – some of that love. We want to be seen, not as a threat, but as
who we are: doctors, lawyers, architects, postal workers, public employees, executives,
stay-at-home mothers, unemployed, bus drivers, students. We are tired of an Oprah here, and a Beyoncé
there. We want to be seen in droves too.
Honestly, I don’t care who is gay and who isn’t. I just know that if one more person comes
out, I’m gonna pull my hair out (well, just the grey ones) because
perspectively speaking, a whole bunch of us have been openly Black for a long
time, and nobody gives a shit!
