tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post2735258522180539152..comments2023-03-25T08:05:01.984-04:00Comments on Perspectively Speaking: Halphaned MyraAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02035813214367761502noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-46092507885509752642013-07-31T14:11:38.157-04:002013-07-31T14:11:38.157-04:00As I read this my heart broke for your father. I s...As I read this my heart broke for your father. I so understood your perspective, but I could not help thinking about what pressure was placed on him after all the mourners left, he was left to "fend" for himself and 6 sets of eyes looking to him with high expectations. "what now daddy?"...he was not able to mourn, breakdown and cry as the rest of you did.. he was expected to get in gear. I was however happy to see that you saw a bit through his eyes and even though he "took it out" on your children...he had no clue of what to do without his wife. our society does not breed the type of men who is going to seek help, to lay down on someone's couch and bare his soul. he bottled it. his life ended also.. he was a zombie in motion. I am hoping that from this perspective that you were able to harness some forgiveness for what you had to go through and mend any broken fences. Ursulanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-46564570033045570392013-07-06T02:51:51.245-04:002013-07-06T02:51:51.245-04:00Hey Myra! It took me a while to get here "Per...Hey Myra! It took me a while to get here "Perspectively speaking“. Now that I'm here I see what I was missing and wish I had link-up sooner. Over the years,after the death of your mom, I watch your father's attitude and progress in life and came to realize he was a different man from what he was before the tragedy. But what is amazing is to see my thoughts in yo words. However my focus was on him rather than on all of you. You've made me realize that apart from having to cope with the loss of your mother you also had to contend with the loss of your father eventhough he was still alive. I must say its an exceptional piece. Continue your writing and look forward to me checking in from time to time...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05273149000892853082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-28288213713260957882013-06-28T14:02:07.087-04:002013-06-28T14:02:07.087-04:00I really like this one,it reminded me of my youth ...I really like this one,it reminded me of my youth growing up with my father,a few lines really put me in that same boat.....keep them comingIjahbanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-69532917625751198952013-06-28T13:37:49.204-04:002013-06-28T13:37:49.204-04:00Myra, this peace was compelling. I have a conundr...Myra, this peace was compelling. I have a conundrum of thoughts on the matter, mainly because I can't relate. My dad was an alcoholic but he was a phenomenal man, a great provider, kind and loving man too. Our environment breeds all types of people and I am sure that your dad was a product of his environment and meant little harm. I am proud that you recognized his flaws as weaknesses that he may not have been aware of too. We can let those circumstances govern our lives or we can use them to be better that our perpetrators. Oh, let me also interject her in our home we do not observe Mother's or Father's day, we practice them daily in our home. Keep up the good work, I don't always read but I always enjoy what I read.Roseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16705431149493139282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-32639959112702708372013-06-28T12:14:34.582-04:002013-06-28T12:14:34.582-04:00So on point,this is epic Myra,love it.So on point,this is epic Myra,love it.ERROL. GEORGEnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-65595399346822017162013-06-28T12:11:39.153-04:002013-06-28T12:11:39.153-04:00Amazing indeed...
Amazing indeed...<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-36500644252375139532013-06-26T14:22:57.915-04:002013-06-26T14:22:57.915-04:00Myra, I don't know if I'm a bit late in to...Myra, I don't know if I'm a bit late in tossing in my two cents on your latest piece of writing. Blame on long nights at work and sleepy, sleepless days. That also goes for being a bit behind on your blog. However, this is my first of three days off!I read your piece, in it's entirety. And it was most compelling! Compelling to the point where I had to re-read some lines. Strangely, I can't say if I enjoyed it,though! I just don't know. Perhaps, it is because I find myself in that eerie position of being emphatetic to your ordeal! In so many ways, I've lived it! I can't say, however, I lived it exactly as you did. As a girl-child you must've carried burdens of expectations that as a male off-spring I could -and would- never fathom. Nevertheless, too many times, I find myself nodding in agreement with you. In so many instances, I recall my father showing similar behavior to yours after the sudden passing of my mother. Quite a few times, I even find myself smiling. In the end, as usual, it was a well written piece. This one hit home a little harder and dug under the skin a bit depeer. It rang loud with emotions. All in all, that experience has made me a better man and better father today. Not better than my father for he still stands as my hero today. I'm just a better person for that ecperience. Thank you for this moment of reflection and intropsection,though. As the saying goes, "I feel ya!" Great writing. I may be unsure about enjoying it, but I DEFINITELY LOVE IT!!! KEEP ON WRITING!!!Neville Lewisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-46086812671642619212013-06-25T20:48:48.732-04:002013-06-25T20:48:48.732-04:00awwww what can i say................... it speaks ...awwww what can i say................... it speaks volume.Lots of daddies need to read this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-67448841056799121632013-06-25T16:10:02.873-04:002013-06-25T16:10:02.873-04:00The sad thing is as men we are programmed to belie...The sad thing is as men we are programmed to believe everything falls on us. Society naturally expects us all to be Supermen. We are expected to be the rock..what are the characteristics of a rock? Firm, Rigid, Unyielding, unmoving, solid and dependable for support. Truth be told all people who jave had to anchor a family fave these issues. The difference with men is if we break from protocol we are called to task. If we show emotion we must be acting like women. It is a vicious cycle. Very tragic because what society teaches us to be is not what the family needs. Very good post. I enjoyed reading itAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07151700491971698172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-43790604855762527732013-06-25T15:14:30.380-04:002013-06-25T15:14:30.380-04:00I totally love this. Yes you were honest about yo...I totally love this. Yes you were honest about your feelings towards Daddy but I must admit I had the kind of love for Daddy that you had for Mummy DUH! I too would hope that our MEN would be the fathers that they are called to be. It is not even about giving children "things" it is about teaching them values communication, honesty, integrity and the list goes on.... BEVShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15486745301577574935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173606815962198933.post-62987421650439697822013-06-24T10:16:28.172-04:002013-06-24T10:16:28.172-04:00I love this. The world communicates to men that we...I love this. The world communicates to men that we are to be strong and suppress our emotions. For example if a man is seen in public crying, its a shock to ppl. But if its a woman its ok.Richie Richardshttp://www.richierichards.netnoreply@blogger.com